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[ How We Met | How We Got Engaged ]

How We Met

  Chris and I met at work; appropriately enough, our first encounter was in a server room in New York City. Both he and I worked for the same dot com at the time (now defunct); he in the NYC office, and I in the Philadelphia-area office. At the time, Chris was a full-time film student, who was also working full-time as an intern. I was a lowly tech support worker who was on loan (once a week for about 5 months) to the NYC office from Philly, since New York didn't have their own support staff.

  One day, (December 16th, 1999 to be precise,) I was sitting in the tiny, overheated server room (formerly a darkroom), installing Windows NT on a Compaq server, when this guy walked in and started fiddling with some phone wires tangled on the wall. As he worked, he turned around and noticed what I was doing, and immediately made fun of me for installing Windows. I laughed and defended myself, claiming that I hated Windows and was only doing my job, whereas I was really more of a UNIX geek (another operating system). Luckily, as I found out, he thought the same way.

  Thirty seconds later, as we both worked in silence, just as I was thinking that I should really introduce myself, when he turned around, stuck out his hand, and introduced himself first.

  After a few more trips in and out of the 'closet' (our little server room) and a few more lighthearted barbs were exchanged, we parted ways. The next evening, we saw each other again at the company Christmas party in NYC, but didn't have many opportunities to talk.

  The following week, we exchanged a couple emails ('supposedly' about the pictures he'd sent around which he'd taken at the party). A few days later, he got stuck at the office working 60 hours of a 72-hour shift, since the other two people on call were Muslim and had religious holidays they needed to observe. That first night, I called Chris and told him "I want to sing to you." A bit nonplussed, he agreed, and I sang to him. He thought it was incredibly sweet, and we ended up spending /five/ hours talking, until three in the morning. The next night, while he was still on duty, I called him again, and we spent /six/ hours on the phone, until 5 a.m.! So that was the beginning of what has become a perfectly wonderful, mushy, happy relationship. (And I'm sure it makes all of you sick :).)

How We Got Engaged

  Chris and I got engaged on November 25th, 2000, over Thanksgiving weekend. I had spent Thanksgiving with my family (parents, sister and grandparents) at my grandparent's house near Baltimore, MD. On the spur of the moment, as I drove home to Philadelphia) I decided to continue up to New York City, and visit Chris for the remainder of the weekend.

  That night, Chris suggested that we go to dinner at this restaurant he'd heard about, but never visited; the Gotham Grill. I asked him about the dress code, but he assured me the jeans I was wearing were fine. He made a reservation.

  When we showed up at the restaurant, we realized that we /were/ underdressed; it was definitely a fancy restaurant. After looking at the menu (and more specifically the prices), it was even more apparent.

  As the evening progressed, we were incredibly impressed with the service (who ignored our casual dress completely) and the simply amazing food. As we held hands across the table (something Chris and I do frequently when eating out), the waiter assured us "no, don't move- I can set the table around you." The lobster-shrimp linguini was absolutely delicious, and the rest of the dinner just as good. We left after a very romantic, leisurely and delicious dinner. (If you're willing to spring for a very expensive dinner for a special occassion, this place was phenomenal.)

  Later that night, while we were talking (at 11:41pm, to be precise), it suddenly it slipped out: "Will you marry me?" There was a slight pause, and then Chris answered me, quietly. "Yes." Voila, we were engaged.

  Although we couldn't quite believe it ourselves- "we really did it!" it had happened; were were engaged, and I was the one who had done the asking. Exactly one week later, on Saturday, we met with my friend Miriam in 30th Street Station in Philadelphia to spend some time together. Chris wandered off to get something, and while he was still gone Miriam asked me if I thought we might get married some day. Chris walked up at just that moment. "Well, actually, yes," and we told her the whole story. She was suprised, but definitely happy for us.

  As we talked about it, Chris joked, "well, we're not /really/ engaged...I mean, she didn't get me a ring!" I responded with "Be careful what you wish for- if you want a ring, I'll get one for you," and he shrugged and said "Um, sure."

  A few hours later, we were at the mall and we'd picked out a wedding band together. When we got home, I presented it to him and proposed again. He accepted, and he now wears /his/ "engagement ring" on the ring finger of his right hand. At some point Chris will propose in return, and give me a ring. For now, though, ours is as official as any engagement, and we're putting the finishing touches on our wedding plans. Hurray!